Where Has All The Fashion Gone?

Went to a fabulous restaurant recently. Don’t indulge in expensive French restaurants very often, so it was definitely a special event. For me, the preparation leading up to such a culinary adventure is as much fun as the dinner itself. Deciding what to wear, putting on my makeup, doing my hair…it’s all great good fun. And the result…I felt beautiful. But when I arrived at this gorgeous restaurant, where I was prepared to spend $100 for dinner, what do I see? Tables of people dressed as if they were going to the grocery store. The best dressed looked as if they had just come from a long, hard day at the office. No one looked like they had bothered to do anything special to prepare to enjoy this wonderful experience. Why is that? Is this common only in the LA area where everything has become completely casual? Why don’t people get dressed up any more? Where are people wearing all the beautiful clothes they buy? Every day I sell beautiful clothing to lovely women…but when I go to the theater to out to dinner I don’t see anyone wearing the kinds of things I sell or the kinds of things women buy from me. I am baffled. Getting dressed up is fun, it is an important part of the entire experience.

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4 Responses to Where Has All The Fashion Gone?

  1. Kerry October 6, 2014 at 8:53 am #

    Hey Cindra,

    Good question! My experience when I was living in LA is that I was just so over scheduled that all of a sudden I was supposed to have left fifteen minutes ago, I threw on whatever was clean and simple and rand out the door to stress out sitting in traffic. As I got older, I worked more and socialized less. Also, the dinner, concert, museum scene are not the social events they used to be. The more crowded LA gets, the more anonymity people seem to want. We live behind fences, drawn curtains, drive behind dark tinted windows and don’t know our next door neighbors. I’ve thought a lot about what this means and I believe it has something to do with our surveillance culture. On the other hand, if you go to LACMA during the summer jazz concerts, one sees a different group of cultures, with different ideas about how they present themselves. Hmmm….

    • Cindra October 6, 2014 at 11:37 pm #

      Ah! I had not thought to connect our shifting consciousness around social connection with how we dress. Your comment is indeed food for thought. If we are drawn to anonymity then perhaps “dress to impress” has become inconsistent with the idea of building barriers around us so that we remain disconnected. Perhaps what I’m seeing is dressing to be anonymous, dressing so that we don’t draw attention to ourselves. After all, if we set and adhere to standards of dress for vaious occasions and environments, that presupposes other people will be noticing us. So if we shrug off these standards perhaps it is because we don’t want to be noticed so that we can retain a certain amount of isolation.

      Hmmmm…..indeed! Thank you for your very insightful comment, and for your perceptive perspective!

  2. Nancy Goldblatt July 20, 2012 at 9:53 am #

    I call casual dressing, “soft dressing.” Maybe modern life has gotten so complicated and hard for many of us that we are looking for comfort when ever possible. We are also looking for ways to save money.

    Dressing casually in unstructured knit clothing is no only more comfortable but its less expensive (just throw it into the washing machine) no dry cleaning needed and its easier to alter. Unstructured knit clothing can stretch when you move and if you gain a few pounds, its very forgiving.

    • Cindra July 26, 2012 at 7:15 pm #

      Nancy, thank you for your articulate comment about the current trend in casual or “soft” dressing. I agree wholeheartedly that we are all prone to prefer softer, more deconstructed clothing to the highly structured, tailored styles of decades past.

      However, such “soft dressing” clothing can still be worn fashionably and with style…as you clearly prove in your photo.

      My question really is more about the care that does or does not go into getting dressed. After all, at my most dressed up I still prefer soft, flowing silk pants, tank and duster to something tailored that requires me to wear “foundation” garments.

      But when I go to the theatre or out to dinner, I see people in flip-flops, athletic shoes, dowdy jeans, scruffy shirts, etc. I’m not suggesting that we should go back to rigid dress codes that require coat and tie for men and dresses and nylons for women. But having different clothing for going to work, cleaning the house, and going out on the town seems like a good idea to me. Just seems like it makes the experience more special, more fun.

      What do you think?

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